Expectations you must let go of in your 20s

 

1: You're Meant to be extraordinary

-Extraordinary people are just rare Recognizing this doesn't mean you're giving up on your potential. It means you're dissolving the illusions about what it means to be your whole self and live your best life.

*The real question is what work are you willing to do even if nobody claps??What will be worthwhile if it goes unacknowledged how will you feel loved bt a few people if you aren't recognized by many?? Finding the exceptional in the ordinary is the real extraordinary.

2: You're faults are more forgivable and your attributes are more exceptional

-Believing that you're responsible for your misgivings and that you're more exceptionally skilled at your strengths is the mindset to which many people default but it ultimately just keeps you small if you don't acknowledge the magnitude of the poor choices you're made,  you're bond to justify doing them again.

3:You can outsmart pain

-You cannot think your way out of pain.You cannot predict it,or avoid it or pretend you don't feel it doing it so is living a fraction of the life you were meant to and it will make you a fraction of the person you're supposed to be.

4:Love is something other people give you

-People cannot transmute emotions,which is interesting to consider when you realize how utterly consumed with the high race is with the concept of getting other people to love us.This is because when we think other people love us we give ourselves to allow us to feel what's already inside us(if you think love is something that exists anywhere but within your own mind and heart,you will never it)

5:You can't control what other people think of you

-The idea of behaving a certain way will elicit a certain response is a delusional that will keep you puppeteering through your life.It will distance you from the person you want to be and the life you want to live.

6: Focusing solely on your own needs will make you happiest.

-Despite what many corners of the internet would have you believe.self-sufficiency is just a precursor to happiness it is the foundation it is crucial but it is not it is not the connectedness human beings think.

7: Feeling something deeply means ("it's meant to be")

-The intensity with which you experience something or someone does not equate how destined it is.Many people deeply feel they're called to be famous in their field but they don't have the skills to make it.Most people who get married feel deeply they're in the right relationship but that doesn't mean it won't end in divorce someday

-Breakups are meant to be job losses and hurt feelings and disappointments are too.How do we know this?? Because they happen often they are the most pivotal redirects.Forget the final picture you want your life to amount to it will never exist the way you thinking it should and in the meantime it will only ensure that you waste what you do in the moment.

8:The right person will come at the right time

-You will not be ready when the love of your life comes along you also probably won't be ready when you see the listing for your dream job.If you wait for the feeling of readiness you'll be waiting forever and worse you'll miss the best of what's Infront of you.