Love Vs Obsession

     

 

What's love???:A feeling from the heart 🤔 what of obsession though?? A crazy feeling where someone cannot think in an affectionate manner.An obsessed person always thinks of having the beloved one on his side all day.

When it comes to relationships many people want to find someone who is committed,loyal and devoted to them only but there is a fine line between devotion and obsession.So how do you know if your partner is actually in love or obsessed 🤔

✓To be fair it's easy to confuse the two.Most of us start our love relationships in a heightened state of insecurity and anxiety.

  

          

✓ Falling in love takes alot of risks.In order to be in a truly emotionally fulfilling relationship you need to be able to be vulnerable and allow another person in.For alot of people it can be pretty scary.This state of the unknown can create a feeling of anxiety that won't really go away until you know for sure that your partner reciprocates your feelings.

In a healthy relationship both partners will be able to say how they're feeling and that anxiety should go away.But if that feeling of anxiety is still there it can lead to obsession.In obsession it's the anticipatory anxiety emotions that shifts into your thinking.For instance let's say if someone maybe is scared of losing you they're going to act in ways that ensure you're not going to leave them.Like let's say asking for exclusivity fairly early on in the relationship,more often than not.

✓Love is reciprocal, they're should be a pretty equal amount of give or take.But when someone is obsessed they're more likely to give more than they take.It's easy to mistake love for obsession but the difference is how far you take your interest in the other person and when it becomes unhealthy you'll know it's obsession if they act in irrational ways.

✓When a person is controlled by their passion it's really more of an obsession, That means they'll forget about their life before the relationship and will keep their focus on.Basically you'll become the centre of their universe 

✓When someone is obsessed with you they might not like the idea of you growing as a person or having any independence.But in a healthy relationship each partner empowers one another to be the best version of themselves.

^Its so easy to confuse obsession for love.Obsession mirrors love.But then again obsession comes from a place of anxiety and fear.Even if someone doesn't realize it fear will definitely show through their actions.So if your partner's behaviours are making you feel uncomfortable have a conversation about it.Sometimes people are just unaware of the things they're doing.Having that open communication can make your relationship much healthier ✌️